Why is this happening to me God? I don’t understand. I work so hard, so I don’t deserve this. This situation is so unfair. These are some of the mini conversations and sometimes intense dialogues that I have had with God. Can you relate? There have been so many times in my life when things happened. Life. Unfair situations beyond my control. And many people say sh*t happens. When unexpected situations happen in our lives, this is the time when God wants us to be still mentally and stand in these pauses of life.
You may not understand why certain situations are happening in your life and may even start to question God on why they’re happening. For many years when I’ve had life situations happen, like getting fired from a job, having a relational challenge, family matters to take care of, or even just dealing with my own personal battles, I would always ask God the question “why”. Now I’m not saying I don’t do that now, but as I get older, the “why” question turns more into “what do you want me to learn from this situation God?” question.
There have been many times when God did not immediately answer me when I asked Him the “why” question. What He was really doing was waiting for me to settle down in my heart and to listen to Him, and to be open to hearing His voice through His Word. Not through people, not through another self help book, not through a co-worker, or even a close family member, but to solely hear His voice. And that’s what he requires of you as well.
Sometimes God allows things to happen in our lives, so that we can really see where our trust is and sometimes it’s to test where we’re putting our pleasures and our peace. A great scripture to meditate on is Isaiah 26:3.
Recently, I excitedly started a new job that I had thoughtfully considered and prayed about, and unexpectedly, after two months I was let go from my position. You may be thinking, wow, that sucks. Trust me, I thought the same thing too, but after talking to God, my husband, my mentors, and really doing some deep reflection about the situation, I came to the conclusion that this is was a blessing in disguise.
I have had the opportunity in the past few weeks to be able to clear my brain mentally from all the mental clutter that built up while working a full time job, and it is giving me mental freedom to focus on other things that are more important to me and my family’s future. I’m not condoning a job loss or any unfavorable life situation, however, the point is, you can either waddle in your situation, or choose to rise above it. How we look at a situation and how we respond to it, will determine how high we rise up above our situation. In Kelly Balarie’s book Battle Ready, she talks a lot about controlling your thoughts and feeding your mind with what matters. At the end of the day, that is what’s most important.
Although I experienced an unfair situation that I don’t wish on anyone, I probably would not have taken the time to pause and to really reflect on what God was doing in my life and to count my blessings.
Have you had situations in your life where you have started to question God, or even question yourself? I beg you, despite what you have experienced in your life, whether it be a job loss, a family situation, a marriage situation, your children acting cray cray, know that God knows exactly where you are. What may seem like a set back to you, is a setup for God to open doors in your life that no man can shut. It’s also a set up for you to use this time to seek the Lord and to hear from Him about the direction He wants you to go in for the next chapter in your life.
The following lessons are what I’ve learned and have applied in the midst of the pauses of my life, that you can also apply to your life pauses:
1. Before rushing to seek people’s advice, take time to seek the Word and to hear from God about your situation.
2. Speak positive words over yourself and stop beating yourself up.
3. Make a decision every day to love yourself and to do something that you enjoy doing. I.e. read a good book, dig deep to discover what your passions are, embrace the extra time you have to discover yourself more & your God given gifts.
4. Get around and associate as much as possible with like-minded people that will continue to support you and encourage you.
All of these things are what I have done to keep myself happy, focused, and in a peaceful state during my “pause” in life.
When I say pause, I’m not referring to just sitting around and doing nothing and hoping and praying that something good is going to come your way. I’m referring to taking time to embrace the positive things happening in your life and taking advantage of the time that God has given you to discover all that He wants you to become. I am grateful because in the midst of my life “pause”, God has provided for all my needs and I have not had to stress or worry financially because He had prepared my husband and I for this, and we did not even know it. Just like He’s providing for us, He is providing for you too!
There’s a lesson to be learned in every situation that we go through, so I pray these lessons and my story will encourage you to embrace the pause in your life and to stand, and be still and know that God loves you very much.
Thank you so much for reading this blog and embarking upon this inspirational journey of life with me! If you were encouraged, inspired, or can identify with the message/story, please feel free to comment. I’m sure others will be encouraged by hearing YOUR story.