Have you ever felt like no matter how much makeup you put on, or how nice you dress up, or how cute your hair is, or how nice you are, or how good your marriage is, or even how you look, that you still feel you’re not good enough? Now I’m speaking to the ladies because I know that many women can identify with this.
For years, and even now, I have had times where I struggled with not being comfortable in my own skin. I grew up in a decent home growing up. Have been blessed with a supportive family, friends, and husband, and even by the worlds standards, I have a good job. I ask myself, “why do you still feel uncomfortable Ryan with yourself?”
God has shown me that the times when I’m more focused on myself and feel self-conscious or overly concerned about what people are thinking of me, is because I’m being selfish.
How can I (emphasis added to “I”) be selfish God, I ask. God’s answer surprised me because I’ve always considered myself someone who was a pretty giving and thoughtful person, so to hear God say that I am being selfish and operating in pride when I don’t feel comfortable in my own skin for whatever my justified reasons were, was a tough pill to swallow.
God constantly reminds us through His Word that…
For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the Spirit, the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace (Romans 8:5-6)
I was reminded that every time I felt self-conscious or focused on how people were perceiving me, that I was operating in my flesh and not walking in the Spirit. Fear was the root to this mindset because I was worried about people rejecting me.
I have experienced this first hand and have seen how the more I get into the Word and deliberately focus my heart and attention on God and what He says about me, that the more my flesh doesn’t cry out for attention or recognition. I’m a little embarrassed to share this, but I believe that through my transparency someone reading this will be delivered and more inspired to make a change in their life.
Can you relate?
I share this because I know many of you, especially women, have a tendency to compare your weaknesses to other people’s strengths, and wonder why you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin at times when you’re around certain people.
Know that God loves you unconditionally and that He does not focus on your flaws. Thank God! Now I’m not saying don’t personally grow and develop, so you won’t change. I’m saying that God loves us enough to not leave us the same or where we’re currently at. He desires for us to change, so we can become more like Him.
This should bring comfort to your souls! I know it does mine. I encourage you today to not focus on your flaws. Focus on your beautiful imperfections and the amazing woman God made you to be. Embrace God’s love and remind yourself of one of my favorite scriptures.
The God of peace makes me entirely pure and devoted to Him; my spirit and soul and body are kept strong and blameless until the day when our Lord Jesus Christ comes back again (1 Thessalonians 5:23 TLB).
None of us are perfect, so know that you are not the only one experiencing not being comfortable in your own skin at times. Continue to embrace God’s Word and allow Him to fill your heart and mind with His promises of WHO you are in Christ; not to the world, to your spouse, to your boss, to your significant other, to your children, and the list can go on and on and on. Truly embrace who God says you are and watch how the lord changes your mindset on how you see yourself.
I thank God He has done that for me and am grateful for the women of strength He put in my life, to constantly remind me of the amazing woman I am in the lord. And guess what? YOU are an amazing woman as well. Recieve it! Embrace it! Walk in It!
Thank you for your holy spirit and for loving ___________. Thank You for surrounding __________ with godly men and women, so that they can experience your love, but most importantly, thank you for loving __________ unconditionally. Give them favor in everything they do today, in Jesus name, I pray, amen!
Thank you so much for reading this blog and embarking upon this inspirational journey of life with me! If you were encouraged, inspired, or can identify with the message/story, please feel free to comment. I’m sure others will be encouraged by hearing YOUR story.