Are you someone who has had a hard time being comfortable in your own skin or has experienced being a people pleaser? If so, you are not alone. We’ve all had experiences and seasons in life where we were trying to find our place in life and fit in.
It’s not that we consciously try to do it, but deep down inside, every person has a desire to be loved, wanted, paid attention too, and noticed. If you say this hasn’t crossed your mind, then you’re not being true to yourself; you’re wearing a mask.
As a recovering People. Pleasing. Junkie (P.P.J.), I’ve learned over the years that it’s important for me to be honest with myself, and confess why I am so focused at times on worrying about what others think about me. At the end of the day, who really cares what people think.
If other people don’t pay our bills or have a heaven or hell to put us in, why do we find ourselves concerned about what others think about us? Things that make you go hmmm.. Although this can be a hard topic to discuss, we all have to get naked with ourselves at sometimes (not literally), and confess what’s in our hearts. For me, I confess my heart to God, as well as to my best friend, which is my husband.
Before confessing what you’re experiencing to another person, it’s important to acknowledge your areas of weakness and to recognize why you’re responding the way you are to various situations or people in your life.
First, you have to come to an awareness that you’re not being yourself.
Second, think about your responses to situations and how you’ve been acting.
Third, have a “come to Jesus moment” with yourself and confess your insecurities, fears, and vulnerabilities. In my life, God has been who I share my heart with through prayer.
I encourage you to seriously think about who you confess your heart to.
Fourth, be open to process why you’re feeling the way you are and be open and ready to receive honest feedback, and most importantly, change.
If you’re confessing to a person, be mindful of who you talk to because you want to make sure that whoever you share your heart with has your best interest at heart.
God always has your best interest at heart, so if you believe in Him and have confessed with your mouth that Jesus is lord, then you SHALL be saved.
Be encouraged friends and know that despite how you feel and what you may be going through, you are not alone. It’s healthy to confess things, but most importantly, it starts with you. Confess and be honest with yourself about where you’re at and what you’re personally experiencing. The more you do that, the more the people pleasing mask will come off and you’ll be 100% comfortable in your own skin.
How have you experienced making personal confessions and being honest with yourself, positively impact your life?
Thank you so much for reading this blog and embarking upon this inspirational journey of life with me! If you were encouraged, inspired, or can identify with the message/story, please feel free to comment. I’m sure others will be encouraged by hearing YOUR story.